Yesterday, my friend told me she received a full scholarship from Stamford – her ultimate goal is accomplished. Having heard that from her, I died a little inside. Believe me, I love her with all my heart and I am truly happy for her; but alongside crying for myself.
Have you ever caught yourself setting a schedule for your life?Setting up all the goals and deadlines which you expect yourself to achieve within a specific period of time?
“To be independent by 18 years old”
“To be successful by 25 years old”
“To build recognition for yourself by age 28”
These time-frames I set for myself, yet I find myself drifting into disappointment by the feeling of not accomplishing them, or not achieving them on time.
Then I caught people around me doing the same. They compare themselves to people who they look up to, just like I did, just like you did. Then find ourselves not as good as we thought we would be, like all of us did, at least once or twice.
If you can relate to what I say, please take a deep breath and please listen to what I have to say. You are amazing! You are worthwhile and you are the best version of yourself that you can be. Yes, some days you feel as though you are worthless and unrelated to the rest of the successful people out there. Yes, it is not a very pleasant feeling to carry days over days.
That’s why darling, I need you to know that this world will offer you better than you thought it would. I also want you to start loving yourself better than you thought you could. I hope you would start accepting your imperfections as they are a part of you, and they are beautiful too. I would like to hug you and say that you’ve done well, that everyone’s got their own “schedule” and that you are also on your way to accomplish yours, but I couldn’t. So I will have to relay that honour to you, please pat yourself on the back and thank yourself for the amazing experience, also for the promising journey ahead.
Lastly, I would like to share one of the quotes that I keep in the back of my mind all the time
“Don’t compare your backstage with someone else’s highlight reel”.
Words by Duyen Huynh
Illustration by Sascha Tan