Friend Zone – A Guy's Perspective

By Paul Bidmeade

No man wants to hear the ‘F’ word come out of an attractive female’s mouth. “I really like you…as a friend.”

But I’m here to tell you why being in the friend zone can be a good thing.

You always have a wing woman.

As much as your mates like to think they’re the best wing men, having a female on your side has obvious advantages.

When your lady friend approaches another girl in the bar and comes out with Barney Stinson’s famous pick-up line, “Haave you met Ted?” the recipient may find herself intrigued, and actually may want to meet ‘Ted’.

There haven’t been any psychological studies on why this occurs, but I think it’s because women trust the judgment of their sisters.

You gain a caring and nurturing friend.

A woman can become your best friend. Friendships between men and women often have a greater openness and honesty than their same-sex counterparts.

You always have a plus one for dinner parties.

At 21, I haven’t really reached the stage where my weekend plans include dinner parties. But as more of my friends start to get into serious relationships, I can see more dignified plans on the horizon.

Dinner parties require dates. Couples will sit on opposite sides of the table, eating food off each other’s plates, playing Pictionary and charades, and I’ll be the awkward loner having to join a team of three. Now I love charades, Pictionary and most importantly, food, so I don’t want to miss out on going to something that combines them all.

You always have a relationship counsellor.

Couples therapy costs up to $250 per session.

Why waste your money when all you have to do is call a female friend to talk about your dating dilemmas?

A possible wife?

As fun as it sounds being a Casanova and pulling a different girl every night, most of us are eventually going to want to settle down and start a family.

So stop playing Céline Dion’s ‘All by Myself ’ and connect with the woman you have formed a close bond with over the years.

Your solid friendship will ensure a happy marriage – you’ve been able to stand each other as friends for so long, after all.

If it’s good enough for Monica and Chandler, it’s good enough for me.

As life continues to pass us by at this frantic pace, we often take for granted the connections we make with people. It is now more important than ever to cherish the friendships we make.

Want the other side of the story? Click here to see a girl’s perspective of the “Friend Zone”…